The Collar

BDSM has changed some much in the last 10 years, Dominants and Submissives  slaves are disposable, that is what it has come to.
Today when you by a collar it comes with Velcro, because most men think with there cocks. You meet a submissive on Friday and your ready to put a collar on the submissive, really , seriously , just for a piece of ass. A week later your tired of the sub, so you take your Dollar General collar back, and move on.
Now there is a consideration collar, then a training  collar, then at last THE COLLAR. Wow how much stress do you wish to put upon a submissive or a slave.
If you get married is there a consideration ring, then a training ring, then the ring. NOT.
A collar symbolizes the same as a wedding ring, in some cases more so.
Although a collar is earned, it is not meant to add stress to your potential submissive.
You never set your submissive up for failure, a lot of positive reinforcement is needed, and I cannot
stress enough about communication. I myself like to set an hour or so aside on a daily basis, just to talk.
Instead of rules I call them guidelines, protocol which I am real big on. If the submissive is real and truly wants a D’s relationship none of what I have covered would be a problem.
A collaring ceremony, could take place in 6 months to a year, it can be private or with a gathering just like a regular wedding.
If you run across a Dominant who wants to collar you the first day or week he has known you. RUN.
This is just my opinion, I am sure not everyone is going to agree and that is fine.
I myself take a collar very serious, in 20 years I have had five long term relationships and I collared three.

It does not mean the other two were not worthy,  just something neither of us were interested in..

Looking for the Dominant on a White Horse

So you wake in the morning fix a cup of coffee. sit down turn the computer on. You are hitting all the social sites blogs. searching for the one you are a submissive in need of a Dominant.
You look to your right an eviction notice on your table your car insurance is due. your power is getting ready to be turned off. your late on your car payment. it just goes on and on.
Mass confusion sets in. only if you had a dom he could make everything ok. he would just take over everything. and in no time I will be fixed.
I need a dominant that makes 6 figures I want to be taken care of. Well the bad news is it does not work like that. You want one man to come in and fix everything.
Wait I know the dominant that works at Mcdonalds but what can he do for me Nothing. he is nobody. nothing he only makes minimum wage.He can do nothing for me Dominant or not.
WRONG
If your sitting there this far you need a financial adviser not a dom. or master.
I shall give you two examples that I know of and I am sure there are many more.
A very good friend of mine who has been a security guard for some 20 years, I am guessing
He probably makes 10 dollars an hour at most, His wife and submissive is a hospital administrator she makes about 100.000 dollars a year more than he does.
Another good example I know a surgical RN she makes about 65k a year, her Dom works in a call center, he makes about 9 dollars an hour. At this point your sitting there laughing, that is ok laugh.
A D’s relationship is very special, it runs much deeper than a vanilla relationship, the trust is much greater, the communication is incredible, ahhh and the kink.
A submissive or slave is cherished, loved,  put on a pedestal if you will, the submissive / slave gives so much.
A good Dominant will take you under his wing, give you guidance, structure , he will sit down with you and put a plan together. He will hold your hand the the whole process. He is there to help, but not rescue.
Things are not fixed over night, there is no quick fix for anything. After all it was you that got yourself in this mess it was no one else.
A submissive or slave is a book, a good Dom will sit down and read the entire book, he will think about what has to be done, and will say ok here is what we are going to do.
Now what makes a Dominant so much more different than a vanilla male, a lot. A vanilla male will make  un-rational dissensions, he will act before thinking of the consequences.Most of the time he is not in control of himself or his surroundings, most are abusive, be it verbal, or physical. Most are not loyal.
The communication is not there, seldom takes interest in things you like to do, it goes on and on.
So the next time your looking for the knight on the white horse, think about the Dom at Mcdonalds.

You will not be sorry.